Action On Focussing On Your Future
( i ), Make your first Goals clear and easy to achieve
( ii ), Set Time lines to achieve them
( iii ), Set them for your benefit and not others
( iv ), Set them because you WANT TO and don’t HAVE TO!
Watchwords!
“Where I am, is where I have got myself to be!”
Think Well Today and Think “Action!”
Good Luck!
Gerry Neale
Saturday 29 May 2010
Wednesday 5 May 2010
Why Is My Goal-Setting Not Working: What Am I Doing Wrong?
If you want a great book to help you review your childhood and connect you with the "You" of today then read " You Can Change Your Life" by Tim Laurence. ISBN 978-0-340-82523-5.
Remember, you can think you have chosen a goal in the belief that you want to achieve the end result you have visualised. Yet the reality can be very different! A parent or a teacher can have laboured the point in your childhood that you are useless at it or would never make the grade and you mandated that in your mind at the time.
So what have you done? You have set a goal, not so much to achieve the desired outcome for yourself, but to prove the parent or teacher wrong! Every-time you fix your mind on the goal, then inadvertently and sub-consciously you raise the spectre of the adverse comments made all those years ago. One goes on giving those comments air-time. Tim Laurence in his book will show you how to disassociate from that childhood memory and then you will be able to commit to the goal entirely on its own terms.
But if nothing else, if I have identified the source of the your problem, then that will give you chance to dismantle the longstanding criticism resident in your mind. You can reflect objectively, as you are now, on those remarks made years ago and then tell yourself over and over that they may have been well-intended remarks but they were quite simply wrong then and are still wrong now.
Good luck
Remember, you can think you have chosen a goal in the belief that you want to achieve the end result you have visualised. Yet the reality can be very different! A parent or a teacher can have laboured the point in your childhood that you are useless at it or would never make the grade and you mandated that in your mind at the time.
So what have you done? You have set a goal, not so much to achieve the desired outcome for yourself, but to prove the parent or teacher wrong! Every-time you fix your mind on the goal, then inadvertently and sub-consciously you raise the spectre of the adverse comments made all those years ago. One goes on giving those comments air-time. Tim Laurence in his book will show you how to disassociate from that childhood memory and then you will be able to commit to the goal entirely on its own terms.
But if nothing else, if I have identified the source of the your problem, then that will give you chance to dismantle the longstanding criticism resident in your mind. You can reflect objectively, as you are now, on those remarks made years ago and then tell yourself over and over that they may have been well-intended remarks but they were quite simply wrong then and are still wrong now.
Good luck
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